Here’s an interesting thought. “Thoughts are things” and our thoughts directly impact our lives. They are the building blocks of our focus, feelings, validation and self-esteem.
So there is some truth in the saying “Choose one’s attitude and you choose one’s life”, however what if our attitude is one of worry & fear?
Studies have found about 86% of us classify ourselves as worriers. Maybe a better career choice would be to become a Fearessional (a person who fears professionally).On average people are worrying approximately 2hrs a day.
Source How much time do you spend worrying?
Paradoxically we are living in a time when we have better health, environment, communication, transparency, greater safety, financial security and less wars.
How do you deal with your worries and fears?
For many the above list is the purpose of life. For others and my prior self-belief, this list is how we tolerate the worry and fears we each face daily in our lives; helping, hurting and holding us back from our own peace, happiness and joy.
Here are some other interesting findings about worries and fears
Back to thoughts and things.
One of my realisations after moving to Cairns from Sydney is that I didn’t have to live in Sydney full time to access the benefits Sydney, or the benefits any big city had to offer.
When I wanted to visit I did and when I didn’t, well I didn’t and since making this move my happiness and quality of life has significantly improved.
The truth is we all have a choice and while all choices come with consequences, they also come with benefits i.e. the reason we follow through with our choices. However we don’t need to be immersed 24/7 in news and information to stay informed.
The following is how choose each day to break my worry and fear cycle, and put down that cookie…
Since choosing to embrace these daily habits my life has expanded. Decluttering the noise and distractions has lifted my spirits and increased my gratitude. My health has improved, as has my relationships, finances, client satisfaction and conversations with people. I have more confidence in my choices and I have more time for the things important to me.
Peace of mind is a choice. It requires commitment, guts and courage.
So while it’s not easy to say no it is immensely freeing, remember when you do start to worry there is a 85% chance what you are worrying about will never happen.
About Peter Horsfield
Peter Horsfield in an Authorised Representative and Investsure Holdings Pty Ltd ABN 16 050 286 630 as trustee for Horsfield Family Trust ABN 55 609 068 513 is a Corporate Authorised Representative of Infocus Securities Australia Pty Ltd ABN 47 097 797 049 AFSL and Australian Credit Licence No. 236523.
"To help you achieve your ideal life, live it worry free and make the world a better place". Peter Horsfield. Certified Financial Planner
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Growing up Dad would drive me to swimming training early in the morning and to pass the time we would tell each other jokes.
Trained as an accountant with a background in economics and having a very dry sense of humour, this is one of my favourite jokes I remember him recounting me.
A businessman was interviewing job applications for the position of manager of a large division. He quickly devised a test for choosing the most suitable candidate.
He simply asked each applicant this question, "What is one plus one?"
The first interviewee was a journalist. His answer was, "Eleven".
The second was a social worker. She said, "I don't know the answer but I'm very glad that we had the opportunity to discuss it."
The third applicant was an engineer. He pulled out a slide rule and came up with an answer "somewhere between 1.999 and 2.001."
Next came an attorney. He stated that "in the case of Jenkins vs. the Department of the Treasury, one plus one was proven to be two."
Finally, the businessman interviewed an accountant. When he asked him what one plus one was, the accountant got up from his chair, went over to the door, closed it, came back and sat down. Leaning across the desk, he said in a low voice, "How much do you want it to be?"
The accountant got the job.
More than being in awe of my Dad’s wit and humor, he taught me to appreciate that more often than not there is more than one answer to life’s question and the answer can often be "what you want it to be!"
As a young boy diagnosed with dyslexia this tongue-in-cheek story also encouraged me, in that my academic ability (or lack of) as evidenced in my report card at school, does not automatically equal a future failure in life.
Since then I have discovered many leaders, entrepreneurs and public figures diagnosed with dyslexia as children known to be poor students at school, then later in life labelled heroes and geniuses. Many now credit dyslexia as a problem solving and creative gift, not a disability.
Following on in this tradition, the following are some “genius insights” I have had on my own journey in defining my “worry free, ideal life”
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