I fail a lot.
And every time I fail, it hurts so much that I want to give up, everything!
This is generally followed by me throwing myself my own pity party🪅, with an exclusive invitation guest list to my internal emotional friends i.e., Feelings of Self Loathing, Hopelessness and Spiritual Exhaustion. All bonding together to over exaggerate my failures, undermine my self confidence, muddle my thoughts, emotionally beat me up and make me feel like shit!
Who needs friends when you have friends like that 😒
Then for some reason (maybe just the passing of time, stagnation and boredom) I grow a back bone. I start to tell myself enough is enough, and I stand up and abruptly end my pity party, showing Feelings of Self Loathing, Hopelessness and Spiritual Exhaustion all the door.💪
Then I literally get back on my camel; benchmark where I am in relation to where I want to be, and start move forward in an effort to close my gap.
However success is never a straight line. May was a crap month for me. Emotionally, physically and financially.
First we stopped everything and flew back to Malaysia after being told my mother-in-law had less than a week to live. When we saw her she was in a coma and passed away two days later😭. Wakes and funeral followed, and then whilst there I too was admitted to hospital 🏥💸, where separate to my operation I then pulled my back getting out of bed😫.
Then within one day of returning back to Sydney✈️ , I was blindsided with a separate business invoice for several thousands without explanation😠 and if that wasn't enough during our time overseas our personal investment value had lost in excess of two million dollars on paper.
What a painful and expensive month😣
However it's amongst this mess💩 called life, where the rubber hits the road. When the boys become men and the tough get going 💪 (Yep I'm still an 80's dag 😆).
It's the moment when we gain more clarity about our own actions and thoughts within our control; the experiences we have no control over and the things that are distracting us standing in the way, of us achieving that which is most important to us.
I love BHAG's (Big Hairy Audacious Goals), but sometimes if we're too reckless with them, like elephants our BHAG's can crush and kill us too.
So mastering our BHAG is like learning to ride your elephant. Both require our full commitment, our action, courage, persistence, training, money, choices and more in short our 100% emersion on the path and journey of mastery.
Success is simple. Not easy, but simple.
The formula is a follows:
Know what you want.
Do the work i.e., pay the price.
Don't stop until your goal is your reality.
Unfortunately, life is messy. We try. We fail. We give up, and doing so we never get to experience the reality of our dreams and goals i.e., our BHAG's.
Increasing our probability of success is about nudging the tipping point of momentum into our favour, so that we do more of the things i.e., thoughts, actions and choices, over an extended period of time, that inch us closer towards our BHAG actually being achieved and becoming our new reality.
Better still, if we can think of our thoughts, actions and choices like a casino plays their odds.
Casino owners know that some hands/spins etc they will loose, but if they can keep their player gambling over a longer period of time, their chances of winning increase, because no matter what game you play, the odds of the casino winning your money is greater than the odds of you winning the casino's money.
So rather than putting all of your efforts into one big BHAG bet at the casino of life and coming away empty handed, be mindful to take better care of your pennies first because as with investments doing so, your pounds will take care of themselves.
Finally the following a a few examples I'm currently using to heighten my own probability of success.
And if you have any you are using and would help others feel free to share I'd love to hear what's working for you too.
Reduce probability of increasing weight gain >Drink two glasses of water 20 min before each meal.
Improve probability of better physical and mental health > Exercise daily.
Reduce probability of back injury >15 min stretching exercise daily.
Increase probability of passion project success and meeting deadlines > plan, benchmark, prioritise, maintain my cadence.
Reduce probability of feeling overwhelmed and giving up > enjoy the journey. Life is not a race nor is it a marathon. Life is to be lived, celebrated, savoured, present in the moment.
June Goals
Continue progress on book (minimum 2 chapters) Goal carried over from February, March, April, & May goals. Now I'm ready💪💪💪
Book flights and travels back to Japan for a June Onsen♨️ tour and stay at my holiday home in Niigata🗾 .
Lazy Yoga! Improve stretching (to touch toes with legs straightened),
Cardio exercise 🏃♂️ and strength exercise 💪 alternate days.
One blog post a week✍️📝
What am I reading/watching/listening?
Reading: Bible Old testament Isaiah through to Malachi.
Still Watching: Extremely Inappropriate A single father desperately tries to return to 1986 after somehow arriving in 2024, where his Showa-era ideas come across as completely inappropriate.
Listening again to: Japanese Disco, Funk & Soul 1972-1987. Spotify Play List. Again!!! because its good for my practicing Japanese and well I'm an old school 80's dag 😆
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